I've been absent for a month and I apologize. I made a password error signing in one day and the Blogger algorithm immediately became suspicious and locked me out. But I'm back. I was in the middle of writing this entry when it happened... When I was high school my friends and I used to play a game of what we called "This, That or The Other?" In other words, of these three things which do you prefer? Most of the time it was things like "Sabrina, Jill or Kelly?" Charlie's Angels. "Chocolate, vanilla or strawberry?" "Cocoa Puffs, Frankenberry or Lucky Charms?" You get the picture. Eeny, meeny, miny... One that caught me off guard and that triggered a specific train of thought was when one of the guys blurted out in the locker room "A girl comes in to the locker room, you can only cover one: Pubes, dick or balls?" And at the time, I immediately went to pubes as my answer. I'm not fifteen any more, so I'm not sure why th...

In just a few more hours I'm heading to a surgery center for yet another medical procedure. My third time blasting kidney stones. (I've asked the doctor if he plans on wearing his glasses this time...) Given that this is the third time in as many years lying semi-exposed on a table with a bunch of people in the room, I've been thinking about my medical history a lot. My lower left quadrant of my abdomen has received considerable attention over the years, and has left me with a complete lack of modesty when it comes to being naked or partially exposed with other people. (Yes, I posed for artists in college. I spent a good chunk of time naked with my friends as well. However, post-college life involved quite a bit less nakedness as my newer friends were all a lot more circumspect about sex and nudity. Not all of them, but the majority.) In the last twenty years I've had numerous medical procedures and examinations which are intimate in nature, and over ti...

If you don't recognize the titular reference, it's for a character from the tv show The Big Bang Theory. Kind of an appropriate show name for this topic, which is sexual experimentation. I am a firm believer that people of proper consensual age be encouraged to experiment sexually. Most of us do, anyway, but sexual and mental health depend upon a secure and enjoyable sex life. Without societal permission to explore sexual wants and needs we can assume roles which are not fully rewarding, and, in fact, can be quite damaging. I know this sort of thought is unusual, and will certainly never happen in modern American society. Many Americans have enough trouble understanding that they need to keep their minds and laws out of someone else's bedroom, let alone letting little Johnny or Sally try same-sex oral. Or multiple partners. Or anal, or mutual masturbation, or, or, or... Part of our sexual identity forms as a result of experience. Lacking that experience can lead t...

"What ever happened to pubic hair?" - Dr Herb Melnick, TWO AND A HALF MEN In our teen years we - particularly men - spend a lot of time focused on the production of body hair. It's part of the ritual, and those who grow it earliest somehow win some sort of non-existent prize, while the people who grow it last are somehow losers. It really doesn't matter once you've accomplished the goal, but being last in a crowd is never a happy experience. And pubic hair is the most important of those hair growths. It signifies we're adults. (Well, becoming adults. That achievement also relies upon mental maturation and I know people in their forties who still haven't fully developed.) Sperm production..and accompanying ejaculation...are the male measurement of becoming an adult. Unfortunately for women, we get the fun stuff while women get a monthly bout of cramps and bleeding. Yeah, it's not exactly fair. But in both camps the pubes outwardly signify...