BARELY RELAXED
I’m taking the opportunity to course correct on some things that have kind gotten away from me in the daily hustle. I’ve cut back on drinking and slowly added a few carbs back in - my wife and I have been Keto since January 1st. My morning exercise routine has been sporadic lately, so that too has been revived.
(I’m having a bit of a challenge working out here in the hotel because the suite, with a separate bedroom and really nice bathroom, features the questionable design decision of frosted glass window panels in all the interior doors. Looks great, but even a hint of light is accented, meaning if anyone’s trying to get some sleep the lights of anyone who is awake in the rest of the suite are a distraction.)
Unfortunately, those layers of recurrent muscle - the tone of which are coming along quite nicely - are still covered with 30 years of stubborn fat which is proving a challenge to show the door. I have around 40 pounds I still want to drop, though I'm down 50 from my high, and it’s created a real weird physiology of having solid muscle tone covered by significant soft and spongy fat. Not super attractive because it makes me kind of “lumpy.”
I do my exercises right after I get out of bed. I sleep naked and remain that way until I'm done exercising. I’ve found it frees me up movement-wise, and also psychologically improves my mental state and acceptance of my current physical condition. It’s very liberating.
(I’ve discussed being uncomfortable with having a fat body, despite years of having one, and how that impacts my self-esteem. Use the search at the top right of this page and look up “physical.”)
It’s not often in our buttoned-up puritanical culture that we can feel comfortable that way. Too many people saying it’s unseemly or inappropriate to be uninhibitedly naked, even if you’re alone. But I’ve found in the dark cocoon of the early morning it’s a safe spot, it’s a way to let yourself just be comfortable in your own skin. Even if later in the day body horror swoops in, let yourself just be relaxed in your own for an hour or so, it’s remarkably exhilarating.
It’s an odd revelation simply because - as many-time readers will recognize - I don’t identify as either a nudist or a naturist. To me it’s just innocent and empowering to be naked as a way to completely let go.
At the moment, as I’m typing this message, I have a t-shirt, socks and underwear on. At home, even when I’m alone, there isn’t the compulsion to strip off and run around naked. But when it’s time to relax, to truly, honestly, close my eyes and wind down, I’m more relaxed undressed than dressed.
(A few regular readers will probably be amused that I think of this as a revelation. It’s not the comfort with being naked that I find surprising, I’ve been unbothered with both medical and non-medical nudity for years. It’s that I’ve discovered the degree to which my mind calms and my body un-tenses is enhanced, I’m more calm and serene when relaxing naked than I am when relaxing clothed.)(And yes, I recognize that I'm somewhat of an exhibitionist, but if no one's around is it exhibitionism or simply being comfortable?)
It occurrs to me that this might have its origins in loving to take baths when I was a kid. My most relaxed moments were in the bathtub letting the water wash over me. I'd be in so long that the water usually was getting cold by the time I got out. I don’t take baths very often as an adult - I shower daily - but I love lounging around in the hot tub. Much the same thing as a bath if you think about it.
(One particular girlfriend loved to shower with me. We’d sneak into the men’s bathroom late at night for some fun, which was anything but relaxing. That’s a story for another time.)
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A few other odds and ends. In a week or so I’ll turn 61.
Shocking to realize I'm actually "old" by society's standards, but I really do think it’s as much a state of mind as physical age. I am, at 61 years old, healthier and more active than I was one and two decades ago.
In fact, just got bloodwork done for the new doctor and the vast majority of the report is green. I have some high LDL that needs to be addressed (this is new and probably the result of the Keto diet), a stubbornly high A1C (blood sugar - which according to the report is well-controlled despite being red), and a couple of other red categories more than likely related to my bum left kidney. The rest of my tests got solidly green marks.
My physical, as I noted in the last column, has been rescheduled to March and I’m planning on losing ten or more pounds by the time that rolls around. The point is that despite the chronological years, my mental years and overall physicality are younger than they were a couple of decades ago.
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At some point in 2022 I’m going to re-visit my boyhood hobby of hiking through the nearby mountains and woods. I was a Boy Scout and our troop’s leader was a real outdoorsman. The fact he also introduced us to skinny dipping and group nudity raises my eyebrow these days, but to be honest other than inadvertently triggering my exhibitionist side - by letting us boys run around freely naked when we were camping or in his back yard pool - he never did anything inappropriate that I can recall. However this was the early ‘70s before our cultural paranoias really went crazy.
I unquestioningly sympathize with true victims of abuse, which is unacceptable on any level, but I think the baby got thrown out with the bathwater when it became taboo for kids to skinny dip and run around naked. Not so much a tribal ritual as it was a key element of socializing and understanding that all nudity isn't about sex, and that just being naked can be a lot of fun.
I never went to Summer Camp, so the scouting adventures fulfilled that same adventurous time away from family for me. I developed a real tendency for unabashed nudity even then - I was around 10 and brand new to the troop when the leader plus one of the kid's dads and roughly eight boys hiked up into the nearby mountains and found a great pond for swimming. It was my first time skinny dipping with a larger group, with my only previous experience being in my cousins’ above-ground pool. My aunt and uncle let the three of us - all boys - cavort around naked on a few occasions when my parents dropped me off for boy time. I don’t have a brother, and my parents thought this was a healthy way to give me that sort of a brotherly relationship. (If my sisters or parents or other people were around swimsuits were mandatory, of course.)
On different scouting trip we had stopped for a swim and lunch next to a good-sized creek. One of the other kids accidentally dropped a part of his sandwich into the stream. It washed down the creek, too far out of reach to be easily retrieved and the kid was perfectly happy letting it go. The scoutmaster wasn’t as happy and sternly told the kid he had to get the sandwich.
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We’d already been swimming and were taking a break to eat lunch. I was sitting around in my tighty whities watching this as the kid got more upset. I was around 12, I think. The kid, maybe 9, started crying. The scoutmaster was holding firm, so I dropped my skivvies, said I’d get it, and made my way across the stream - around two feet deep and ten feet across I’d guess. I crawled up on the steep far bank and made my way down to where the sandwich lay bobbing in a side eddy and scooped it up.
I looked around and realized I was standing bare-ass naked in front of around eight kids and our scoutmaster watching me, so I held up the sandwich like a prize. Being a group of goof-offs they all cheered. As I picked my way back down the slope and across the creek I strongly remember thinking "this is kinda cool." More than any single other event, I think this was the planted seed for my eventual comfort with being naked around other people.
So more pieces of the puzzle as to who I’m becoming as a 61 year old Old Fart.
All of which is my usual early-morning mental wandering. Amazing how train-of-thought thinking goes when you’re still on your first cup of coffee.
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