IN A POST-PORN WORLD

It's been a few months since I last posted. Not sure if that means I'm handling my self-analysis well, or if I'm avoiding the subject.

Or maybe it's because a few of the previous topics started to run together and became a little bit repetitive. (How many times can I recall my halcyon days of college without becoming more than a little bit sad in the eyes of the readers?)

But on to today's topic.

I think I've said previously that I'm not a fan of professional porn. It's too sanitized and explicit to be believable, and my objective, when watching other people have sex, isn't to learn new sexual positions, it's to watch people genuinely enjoying themselves rather than performing.I'd rather focus on the face of a person coming to orgasm than on the friction that may be going on elsewhere.

But I've recently come across a relatively obscure category of sexual video called "post-porn" which focuses (pardon the pun) less on being a less high-intensity-lighting glossy fuck-fest and more on the characters just having a lot of fun at what they're doing. Masturbation (male and female); couples; group sex; fantasy; bisexuality; heterosexuality; light bondage, etc. It's about the fun of sex, not the act of it. Sharing our bodies with others, or just enjoying it alone.

The people having sex aren't going through a manual of sexual positions, or placing themselves in positions for full camera access to video some guy's cock sawing into and out of his partner's orifice of choice. These are people who are having sex as part of their everyday lives, and dealing with the enjoyment, and sometimes consequences, of that sex.

Post-porn is intent on showing everyone as participants in the sex acts, and women, in particular, as equal and equally engaged partners, not just as receptacles for excess cum. It features bisexuality as simply a variation, not as a deviation. If men have traditionally enjoyed watching women together for their enjoyment, post-porn introduces the idea that men having sex together for the enjoyment of women is okay, too. The men are not gay men who will occasionally touch a woman, they are genuinely bisexual men who are willing to enjoy both genders. The lack of judgment and the openness to finding pleasure for everyone involved is special, I think.

(By way of admission, I've already noted I'm Bi - mentally if not operationally - and had several bisexual experiences, yes in college, which were a lot of fun. One woman loved watching me and her boyfriend - who was hung like a horse - be openly intimate with each other. As I logicked it out at the time it made no sense to establish boundaries like "you can touch this, but you can't touch that" when you're in an extremely intimate situation. Let yourself go and grab whatever it is that suits you in the moment, as long as your intent is to give that person pleasure.)

There are several examples of post-porn I've managed to find on various video sites, some not even labeled that way.  Europeans, as usual seem to be much more open about post-porn sexuality, producing explicit content without losing sight of the characters. Although the acting is sometimes laughable, you meet individuals/characters who have sex, to whom sex and sexuality are important, not mannequins who jump into bed after a few embarrassing attempts at emoting.

And these are films which open-minded adults of all sexual persuasions can watch together, and discuss. I think that may be the greatest benefit.

The first, and probably best I've discovered is a film called The Fantasy Project - Sexofilm. The film's central theme is female sexuality, and how women derive pleasure from sexual fantasies (and realities). It suggests, perhaps radically, that women have an internal sex drive which men ought to pay attention to. (I specify men because women with other women already know this, and men with other men don't need the information.)

In a series of vignettes various women's fantasies are acted out, with the categories all across the board as far as interests are concerned. Some bondage, a very intimate massage, some male bisexuality, intimacy, toys and female dominance. Each viewer will find a different section to identify with, but it covers the gamut and keeps the viewer's interest. Yeah, it's good jacking (or jilling) material as well.

(And it features one of the best fucklicking scenes in a long time - one of my favorite activities with a threesome. See at the end, below.)

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The next film is a French film entitled Le Baiser. Like The Fantasy Project, Le Baiser takes a look at women and sexuality, but in this case it's from a couple's dissatisfaction, and a desire to experience something new. The film delves into what makes a relationship and features some pretty decent acting, though when the explicit sex scenes kick in - which is immediately - it's terrific. Well shot without the bright studio lighting of most porn shoots, this also features a decent script and plot, in which the sex is central but not constant. Like The Fantasy Project it deals with open sexuality. In a relationship and out of one, and a foursome in a swimming pool that breaks all boundaries in a wonderfully nonchalant way.

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A third film which has attracted my attention is entitled simply S, or on other sites Schnick Schnack Schnuck, for the hand game we call Rock Paper Scissors in English (which gives you an idea of the randomness in their sexual games). S deals with a weekend retreat for two couples which plays with their affections, shows their relationships as they build towards the finale, which takes a surprising turn. The women are equal partners, and shown to have emotions and needs which goes well beyond the usual "fuck me" in standard porn.

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Now & Later

Now & Later

Other movies you might check out include Now & Later, 9 Songs, and Love and Sex. Now & Later is an exploration of sexuality for the man, but the woman is clearly calling the shots (not dominent versus submissive, but teacher to student). The film centers on pushing frontiers for the man, seeing just how far he goes before reaching his own personal boundary.

For a man's coming to grips with his bisexuality you might check out Summer, the First Time. If you're a fan of the human body you get to see tons of skin with this film, more men's than women's, but a lot of both.

(It features a lot of gay sex in addition to bisexual and hetero sex, so the ardent straight probably doesn't want to watch.)

Scenes from Summer, the First Time.

Yes, these films are all definably pornography, but it's well done and features people you learn about and some of

whom you actually care for, as would be the case in a mainstream movie.

Post-porn isn't what I'd call a movement yet, nor is it a label all films in the category display. But it's headed in the right direction and has the potential to create some really compelling films which just happen to have a lot of sex in them.

Win-win, yes?

Fucklicking at the Movies